Negative Nancy’s & Nathan’s

Disclosure: As I named this blog, it’s funny because one of the most positive and loving people I know are  Nancy & Nathan. She is a great co-worker and he was a classmate. They are people who I will hold close to my heart until it stops beating. The End

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We tie ourselves to heaven or hell beginning with our thoughts. Our thoughts are what come out of our mouths. If it is not good, great, awesome; and,  adding; life, Love, and Light to the world, why say it? “No”, is not a bad thing when it’s said in love as honestly as possible. “Yes”, is simple and gets right to the point. So keep things as simple as possible by speaking with yes’s, no’s, or positive expressions.

Sometimes we allow negative people in our world and sometimes we cannot avoid them. While some people don’t even know they’re being negative, others make it their business to be. Scary to me either way. IF it is not positive and uplifting, 9 times out of 10 it is negative and discouraging. Today’s society {with all types of social media} has given every half a brain a voice (some brilliant minds as well). I hear all types of excuses. “I’m just saying”, “I’m just keeping it real”, “Well, it’s the truth”, etc. Which just translates to: “I don’t take accountability for my own thoughts or words.” BEWARE……

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

We have to recognize the Negative Nancy’s and Nathan’s, and work to remove them from our daily agenda. When we feed into the negativity and negative behavior it depletes us. We cannot be our best allowing others to deplete us. Sadly some of the most negative Nancy’s and Nathan’s are in our immediate family. Those are the ones I referred to as “not able to avoid”. They are the best people to practice evasive techniques so you figure out how NOT to engage Nancy or Nathan.

Not one of us can avoid them {Nancy & Nathan}. But we don’t have to allow them to stay on the front row of our lives. Learning to manage Nancy and Nathan effectively can help us shine even brighter. Too much negativity will adversely affect you. Sometimes it just makes you feel bad. At other times it could be worse: making you into a negative Nancy or Nathan.

Don’t let Nancy or Nathan get the best of you. Treat them with kindness and only deal with them in short increments of time when possible. Otherwise, just smile and say nothing. Today has been my day of smiling and rejoicing despite it all. Hope the same for you today, tomorrow, and throughout this wonderful year!!

“When things go wrong, don’t go with them.”
― Elvis Presley

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Human Beings

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Humans are all Spirits having a human experience, unfortunately, some are not aware of that truth. We all are special, unique, brilliant, creative, and wonderfully made. Our minds, our lives, our hearts, all tell a different story in the same book marked HUMAN. Our relation with one another should be of kindness, love, respect, and mutual regard. We should not do anything to someone else that we would not want done to us. As I look at the world I wonder why we’ve gotten so lost.

Wars, hate, violence across the board; deception, lies, and manipulation all around. Why are we not allowing our goodness to shine out, instead of allowing the darkness take control within. The more that good people do nothing, the more that not-so-good people think they are getting away with it. And the more people get away with, more people begin to think they can do the same.

Tolerating evil leads only to more evil. And when good people stand by and do nothing while wickedness reigns, their communities will be consumed.

-Bob Riley

For every action, there is a reaction. When we put good out there, good happens, and the ripples of goodness spread far and wide washing over the entire world. Unfortunately the same is true with evil. The answer to life’s hardest questions and problems can be solved with two words: Light & Love. Light will show the way while Love makes the way. Some people these days are just comfortable with things being how they are because this is how things have always been. It is hard for them to believe that things can and will be different. {fingers crossed} We cannot afford to miss that we make the difference NOW. Today begins the process to better tomorrow’s.

The present is a gift given to all of us. None of us had to get a new day, hell, some of us don’t deserve it after the yesterday’s we’ve lived. Yet, GRACE has saved us all and allotted today for us to do better, say better things, smile at someone, share a word of encouragement. I recently watched this movie called The Letter Writer, it is a very inspiring movie. I send out an inspirational text on Thursdays but the movie gave me simple ideas of how to do more on a daily basis. {Working it into March plans} It only takes someone willing to go the extra mile to show someone else that they can too! Be the extravagant, magnanimous, awesome human being that you were created to be!!! Enjoy life, adding to the lives of others and you will live well!!

The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral,
begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy.
Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it.
Through violence you may murder the liar,
but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth.
Through violence you may murder the hater,
but you do not murder hate.
In fact, violence merely increases hate.
So it goes.
Returning violence for violence multiplies violence,
adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness:
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

PS: This weeks Thursday message is:

“Since the wrong people started sharing their lives and the people that should be sharing, stopped; the world is lost. Help others find their way by sharing your Light!!! :)”

If you’d like to receive the messages as well, shoot me an email with your telephone number and I’ll add you to the list! ♥

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Leap of Faith: First Dates


I went a date on Super Bowl Sunday. I almost didn’t. Internet dating is not my thing and on a whim one night I decided to peek at the personal ads on Craigslist. I further decided to engage in a stream of emails (over 120) asking a bunch of questions. Partly because I didn’t really feel comfortable exchanging numbers right away. After all there is still lots of stranger danger our there!!! LoL.

When I decided that I’d meet him I knew it would be in a public setting and I really like Buffalo Wild Wings twisted margaritas so I figured it would be a good place to meet up. It was getting closer and closer to 6:30 (kick-off) and no solid plans had been made. Via text we decided to meet up at Buffalo Wild Wings after all. He called to verify and I chickened out.

My reality was that I was about to meet a total stranger and anything could happen. I was scared; that he’d be a weirdo, a stalker, a crazy person or something. Because, honestly, who posts personal ads on Craigslist. Then I thought, well, who responds to personal ads on Craigslist. In a public setting where I’m driving, what could really happen? So after about five minutes I called and told him to be on his way. I said a prayer and told GOD I was taking a leap of faith and to keep me safe.

Before 2008 I would have been more receptive to just taking a chance but a series of bad correspondences with men that turned out to be crazy I am wayyyyy more cautious. But I’m glad I took a chance. My date was a genuinely nice guy and I had a really good time. Things didn’t go exactly as planned but it was still all good!! Sometimes in life you have to jump off a shaky limb. You must take chances and throw caution to the wind (somewhat). We never know what’s waiting around the next corner!!

I’m not sure where things will go, but for the first time in a long time I am more excited not to know. Just taking things as they come and seeing what happens!!

“Here’s something else to think about: calling when you say you’re going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house baby, and it’s cold outside.” 
― Greg BehrendtHe’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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